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  My Bethel Experience Part 9

  by new boy in

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  the the worst thing, someone could call you at bethel, was a "jack".............. as in " that guy is a real jack, he doesn't work at all".

  the other term not used very much anymore, was "pot licker" used basically the same way.there has been some bad things done at bethel.

  you name it, someone has done it...........but the absolute worst possible thing, a bethelite could do is be a theft!

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  I was requested to dig these out of the bone yard.
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  To whom do you MOST feel the need to justify yourself?

  by Abandoned in

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  is it your parents?

  your spouse?

  a religious organization?

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  Adondoned

  The only reason to justify anything is if you are making some kind of stand on any given subject. The need to feel "right" about something. The ego wants to be right. To "justify" its self.

  So I would have to say no one. Since there is nothing I need to "prove" or "be right about"... to make myself feel better...

  And since I have been so wrong about just about everything in life so far...how I make any kind of stand on anything?
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  Help me choose my next book

  by Abandoned in

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  i'm just finishing up harry potter and the chamber of secrets right now.

  one chapter left.

  i'll easily finish that before bed.

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  Erkhart Tolle
  "A New Earth" or "The Power of Now"
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  SCAN OF THE LATEST QUESTIONS FROM READERS!

  by deaconbluez in

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  I'm laughing so hard I'm having a hard time getting the needle into my arm.
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  Having a guilty conscience and maybe I should go back to JW

  by hambeak in

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  i have read the new wt and am thinking of going back.

  i believe a lot of the teachings and i see what is going on .

  i just feel a lot of confusion right now.

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  Ham...

  Since It's Damned if you do and Damed if you don't....I think you should go back.
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  Would you go to the Memorial?

  by freedomfighter in

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  since i was raised as a jw i have never missed the memorial.. now since i have been df'd i"m not sure whether i will go or not.

  my wife is still a jw.

  should i go for her sake or not?.

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  Did you enjoy it when you went?.................If so GO!
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  Would you go to the Memorial?

  by freedomfighter in

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  since i was raised as a jw i have never missed the memorial.. now since i have been df'd i"m not sure whether i will go or not.

  my wife is still a jw.

  should i go for her sake or not?.

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  Did you enjoy it when you went?.................If so GO!
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  Would you go to the Memorial?

  by freedomfighter in

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  since i was raised as a jw i have never missed the memorial.. now since i have been df'd i"m not sure whether i will go or not.

  my wife is still a jw.

  should i go for her sake or not?.

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  new boy

  Did you enjoy it when you went?.................If so GO!
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  Would you go to the Memorial?

  by freedomfighter in

  1. jw
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  since i was raised as a jw i have never missed the memorial.. now since i have been df'd i"m not sure whether i will go or not.

  my wife is still a jw.

  should i go for her sake or not?.

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  new boy

  Did you enjoy it when you went?.................If so GO!
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  When You Lie...Whose Feelings Are You Trying Save?

  by new boy in

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  i never lied so much as when i was a jehovah's witness.

  it started at bethel, when a bethel overseer asked me to agree with his opinion, when i knew it wasn't right....."fear of man"...funny term "fear of man.

  " it seems the only time i really had it, is when i was afraid of the "men" in "god's organization.".

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  I never lied so much as when I was a Jehovah's Witness.

  It started at Bethel, when a Bethel Overseer asked me to agree with his opinion, when I knew it wasn't right....."fear of man"...funny term "fear of man." It seems the only time I really had it, is when I was afraid of the "men" in "God's organization."

  You have their "party line." Opinions outside of that are not excepted. Your friends, Your JW wife, Your JW family...They all want you to repeat the "party Line."

  They want you to raise your hand at the Watchtower study...and answer. They want you to shuffle the words around and speak the party line back to them...they want you to repeat their words. The last thing they really want to hear....is your different ideas!

  So you read a book, your not supposed to be reading...Or go to a "R" rated movie, Or you, God forbid, question some new light.

  They take you in the back room and ask you what you "really" believe in. Unless you start dancing your about to lose your wife, kids, friends and family....So my friends the lies begin. You just loss some of your soul.

  To save your friends and family's feelings you sacrifice yours...and why? You say you don't want to put them through the pain and hurt of them knowing how you really feel. So you lie and bury your truth.

  Years, later I found out it was MY feelings I was protecting. I was afraid of their disapproval. I had "fear of man." I lied and hated them for it...The biggest lie there is?....The one to yourself. If your willing to lie to save yourself (or your feelings) you have loss the most important thing there is, your own integrity.

  After leaving I made a vow to myself, not to lie...no matter what the consequences. It has cost me many times. in money and relationships. It has not been easy...somethimes I have failed.

  But if you can't live in your own truth whose truth and you live in?

  Your thoughts please.